So yesterday when I'm at work, one of my co-workers who is also one of my good friends calls me.
She asked if I had time and if it would be ok to stop by my office to talk? I told her sure, but I could feel in her voice
There was something wrong..
She looked happy but you could tell in her eyes she was a bit distraught. She started off by saying that she wanted my opinion because not to be rude, but she thinks I have a lot of Knowledge in the SEX field... and well, yes, I am a VERY SEXUAL person...And when me and my closest friends get to talking.. I'm usually appointed as # 1 Sexpert... haha.. go figure.. anyways..Back to my friend..
Lou Lou is a very pretty girl. Good Skin, cute smile, nice dimples, overall Nice personality. She initially transferred from our San Diego office because her and her boyfriend wanted to live together, and.. he lives out here in SF...
So she starts telling me, Have you noticed on my Facebook I still use my old picture from 3 years ago? And I respond, I never really thought about her profile pic until now that she mentioned it..
She tells me that she uses that picture because she doesn't like the way that she looks now.. In the past year, her weight has steadily climbed and its clear, when you see her picture and then see her in person, yes... she has gained weight. Her face looks sadder.. and she starts telling me her dilemma... Last night her boyfriend/fiancé gets home late... he tells her that they need to talk... so they sit and talk.. he tells her Everyday he looks at her Facebook Profile pic and he thinks about her and imagines about her... but when he gets home... He comes home to the reality... and its no longer that same girl in the picture. He goes on to telling her that he "loves her" but he is no longer "In Love" with her.. that he still wants to marry her and that he still wants her to hold on to him but for the mean time he would like her to move out so he can do his own thing....
I could tell by the look and the expressions on her face while she was telling me all of this... that her heart.. was breaking.. broken... and hurt... I felt so bad for her...
She added that their sex life has also pretty much diminished..she feels that after he comes home from a swing shift and then hits gym afterwards, and comes home around 11 pm usually he's tired and after her working a regular 9-5 shift and then taking care of his boys, cooking , cleaning... etc... she's also tired too.
Then her question to me was... I just wanna know how important is SEX to a man???
I was taken back by her question.. at first I thought maybe she wanted my opinion on if she stay and wait for him... but instead...
So I told her.. I'm not a man, but from my experiences-I think sex is VERY important to a Man or Lady at that....and if a man or WOMEN is not getting sex in the commited relationship that he/SHE's in... more than likely.. they stray and find sex else where.
I asked her if she was pertaining her question to their situation... and she said yes.. and so I told her then it didn't matter if your Man or Lady... if you're both in a relationship together and supposably "in love", you would expect from one or the other to please and love one another in the most explicit erotic way possible.. I mean, that is your partner that you choose to be with, obviously you both got together because they fell in love-
She looked even sadder.. and I felt bad for her... I told her its time to concentrate on yourself. Yes this is all gonna hurt.. but give YOURSELF time. Obviously he's concentrating on his own well being -and now its time for her to do the same... We had a more in depth conversation, at the end I told her this will either make her or break her.. its on her- It makes her because she leaves the punk ass mother fucker, loses all the weight and has tons of fun in her single life and possibly on that adventure she meets the her real soul mate, Or... it breaks her.. where she lets herself go... and gains more weight... either way.. this move is on her.. I told her if she wants she can start working out with me on breaks and so fourth... she said she'd like that and let me know... I Told her that she is a beautiful person, she's young..don't let the door close... open it up... there's more doors out there with bigger and better things :) I know that cheered her up a little...
When she left my desk I thought about myself.. and how there use to be a time when I thought I could never leave Roland, and the life I lived then was all it would ever be....
Little did I know... I think.. When you grow tired of something or a situation that you might be in... Change occurs, either positive or negative weather you like it or not... but definitely something changes in you... and its up to you to make it good or bad. I'm praying for Lou Lou.. that its going towards the good for her... She deserves it... I've heard her cry at her desk thousands of times because of that lame ass punk mother fucker, she's even taken days off from work several times just to handle whatever situations were happening between him and her... She soo deserves better.
I sincerely hope the best for lulu... and if it's a partner that she's looking for.. I pray to GOD that he gives her someone who takes care of her this time around... :)
Off topic but within the subject.. After work, I started to tell Mike about Lou Lou's situation.. he stopped me in mid point of the story.. Then he says.. BABE if you're trying to tell me that Every night is too much for you then just let me know... I LOOKED AT HIM CRAZY!!! Thinking in my head-ARE YOU F-ING SHITTING ME?!! So I told him in a serious manner... "Babe, Once a night is GOOD.. but I would prefer 3 or more X's a day." He gave me a WIDE EYED LOOK... we laughed but I was SERIOUS.
Let me make this clear...No, sex isn't the most IMPORTANT thing in a relationship.. BUT IT IS VERY important. That's the most fun part of the relationship... Bodies touching, Making love, being erotic, getting kinky...
And yeah... anyone can have sex with anyone... BUT THERE IS A HUGE DIFFRENCE, when you're in love... for me I think its fucking great.. cuz not only do I love him... I LUST HIM... HEAVILY....
Sometimes when he asks me whats on my mind.. A good majority of the time.. I can't fess up to him on what I'm really thinking... most of the time.. I'm thinking about him naked... and all the wonderful naughty things I can do to him.... And I think if I always answered him with some sexual response back... ummm I might freak him out.. lol.. jk?
I do have to admit- compared to the people I've been with in the past-I've had thee HOTTEST, INTENSE SEX.. with Mike. I love how he works me, and does me...he makes me feel like fire at first.. blaring, alluring, in rage.. and then we both cool down like we're dancing in water together... umm at least that's how it feels when we make love.. Mmmm... he soo delicious.. in everyway..
I remember the first time when me and him first did "it"...
How me and Mike met- Let's just say it was kinda like a blind date. We met over the internet and we had talked prior over the phone briefly..My roomate was out of town for the month on Duty for the military so I had the house completely to myself. It was a Sunday my kids had gone back to their grandmothers, and I was all alone, bored, lazy...I spoke to Mike earlier and told him to come by if he wanted that night.. he said yes and would be there around 9 pm..
I remember I was sooo nervous... I think I finished a half a bottle of Moscato before he even got to my place..
He was dressed nice, we sat on the couch talked went into the back yard and talked more.. after hours of talking, cracking up.. we got close.. WE GOT REALLY CLOSE..
and then... he took me in everyway... if I could describe pure BLISS... that's what it was... I think that first night we ended up doing it several times... and then after, left the next morning.. with me thinking.. He was nice, but never really thinking something would become of it. I also made it a point if I had a One night stand with ANYONE.. I kept them as a ONE NIGHT STAND, Never calling back, never trying to re-arange a lunch date or a round two.. those where my internal rules. I didn't want to become emotionally involved, with someone I was just having a booty call with..Lemme rewind a little here... You see, before Mike was ever in the picture.. I literally DID ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING I Wanted.. A month prior to Mike I was still seeing Tony, talking and dating Joey HASSShole from Kauai and seeing or "talking" to a couple of guys from my gym that where.. "potential suitors"
I never experienced the "single" life being with my childrens father since I was 15 years old..so.. Once I became "Single"... It was, lets jus say a pretty WILD ride, I learned ALOT about other people and MYSELF. I also learned, just because I'm a women, I'M HUMAN too.. and WOMEN have almost the same needs as a Man would need...I just flipped it, made my own rules, and kept it clean-
I didn't even expect to see Mike afterwards... I took it as a memorable one night stand....
2 weeks passed and I forgot all about him... And then..On a Sunday night He texts and then called to see what I was up to. And then from there.. well we became VERY GOOD FRIENDS, blossoming into something even Bigger:) Its funny cuz a couple months back we were talking about when we first met he told me that he was tripping out at first, because I never called him back after that first night- Little did he know..I was just going by my internal rules). Well its obvious from there... He made me break that rule.. Because we got closer and closer and the lust turned into Love..:)
Everything... HAPPENS FOR A REASON :)
